Short answer
Yes, very normal. Hormonal changes, exhaustion, healing, breastfeeding and the constant demands of a newborn all lower desire. For most women it returns gradually — pressure tends to slow it down.
Why this happens
- Hormones after birth and during breastfeeding reduce desire.
- Sleep deprivation affects mood and energy.
- Body changes can affect confidence.
- Being touched all day leaves little appetite for more touch.
What helps
- Remove pressure and talk honestly with your partner.
- Prioritise rest wherever possible.
- Enjoy non-sexual closeness.
- Go slowly once you’re ready — use lubrication if needed.
- Ask for help with the baby to get time for yourself.
When to see a doctor: if lack of desire comes with sadness, anxiety or pain that doesn’t improve, please speak to a doctor.
Go deeper: Touched out: why new mothers pull away →
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