Short answer
Some women notice changes in desire in their 40s, especially around perimenopause, while others feel more confident and free. Hormones, sleep, stress, relationship quality and body confidence all play a part.
Why this happens
- Perimenopausal hormonal changes.
- Sleep problems and stress.
- Body-image changes.
- Long-term relationship routine.
What helps
- Speak to a gynaecologist about symptoms.
- Prioritise rest and stress relief.
- Explore new forms of intimacy and touch.
- Communicate openly with your partner.
When to see a doctor: dryness, pain or sudden changes in desire deserve a gynaecologist’s advice — effective treatments exist.
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