Short answer
Attraction in long marriages is less about appearance and more about energy, confidence and a life of your own. Feeling good in yourself, flirting playfully and creating a little novelty usually matter far more than changing how you look.
Why this happens
- Routine makes partners feel predictable.
- Self-doubt makes people withdraw.
- Roles as parents or homemakers overshadow the couple.
- He may be stressed and withdrawn for reasons that aren’t about you.
What helps
- Do things that make you feel alive and confident.
- Flirt and tease without expecting a result.
- Spend time apart and come back with stories.
- Ask him what he’d love more of from you — and share your wishes too.
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