How do I know if my wife is not attracted to me?

How do I know if my wife is not attracted to me?

Answer · 2 min read · By Rupesh Ojha

Short answer

Signs include avoiding touch, rarely initiating closeness, little playfulness, and turning away from affection. But these signs often reflect stress, pressure or resentment rather than lost attraction. Attraction can usually be rebuilt once the cause is clear.

Why this happens

  • Pressure makes her avoid touch altogether.
  • Exhaustion looks like disinterest.
  • Resentment cools attraction.
  • Routine has replaced novelty and flirting.

What helps

  1. Remove pressure for a few weeks.
  2. Invest in yourself — confidence and energy are attractive.
  3. Bring back flirting and appreciation.
  4. Ask openly what she needs to feel close.

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Answered by Rupesh Ojha

Relationship and intimacy consultant and behavioural pattern analyst, helping individuals and couples since 2015. Private, judgement-free and LGBTQ+ affirming.