Short answer
After an emotional affair, emotional safety has to return before physical intimacy can. That means ending the outside connection, rebuilding honest communication, and giving the hurt partner time and control over the pace.
Why this happens
- The hurt partner feels replaced emotionally.
- Physical closeness can trigger painful thoughts.
- The partner who strayed may feel guilt and avoid closeness.
- The needs that led to the affair are still unmet.
What helps
- End the emotional connection completely.
- Spend daily time talking about your own lives again.
- Let the hurt partner set the pace for touch.
- Start with small, non-sexual closeness.
- Get support if conversations keep turning into fights.
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