Short answer
Calm comes from your body first. When your heart races, you lose access to clear thinking. Taking a short break, slowing your breathing, and returning to the conversation with one specific point helps more than trying to win.
Why this happens
- Stress hormones make you reactive.
- Old hurts get triggered.
- Feeling unheard escalates emotion.
- Fatigue lowers patience.
What helps
- Notice when you’re flooded and pause.
- Breathe slowly with a long exhale.
- Agree a time to continue the conversation.
- Speak about one issue at a time.
- Repair afterwards — apologise for your part.
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