Short answer
After a baby, many couples lose the sense of being lovers. Small moments of couple time, rest for the mother, shared childcare and gentle flirting usually help attraction return — without pressure on either side.
Why this happens
- Both partners are exhausted.
- The mother’s body and confidence are changing.
- Roles shift to parenting.
- Little private time.
What helps
- Share childcare fairly so you get rest.
- Create small couple moments after the baby sleeps.
- Do one thing that makes you feel like yourself again.
- Flirt and appreciate each other.
- Go at your own pace with intimacy.
Go deeper: Touched out: why new mothers pull away →
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