Short answer
There’s no healthy number. Some happy couples argue often, others rarely. What matters is how you fight — whether you can disagree without contempt and repair afterwards. Frequent fights that never resolve, or that turn cruel, are the real warning sign.
Why this happens
- Stress, tiredness and busy lives raise conflict.
- Unresolved issues come back again and again.
- Different conflict styles — one pursues, one withdraws.
- Poor repair makes small fights feel big.
What helps
- Focus on one issue at a time.
- Avoid insults, contempt and eye-rolling.
- Take a break if either of you is flooded, then return.
- Repair: apologise, laugh, touch — show the relationship matters more than winning.
- If the same fight repeats, look for the pattern underneath.
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