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Many people — especially in India — grow up learning that sex is dirty, dangerous or only a duty. That learning doesn’t switch off at marriage. Guilt with a loving partner is common, and it can be gen

Guilt about premarital sex often comes from strict messages learned in childhood, family or religion. Your feelings are valid, but guilt that keeps hurting you deserves to be understood rather than ca

Performance anxiety with someone new is extremely common — wanting to impress raises the stakes. The most effective step is often simply saying you’re nervous, slowing things down, and treating the fi

Nerves before sex are very common, especially with a new partner, after a bad experience, or when you feel pressure to perform. The body can’t relax and feel desire while it’s in alarm mode, so the go

Confidence in bed comes less from technique and more from being relaxed and present. When you stop watching yourself and start focusing on sensation and your partner, anxiety drops and enjoyment rises

Yes. Many people in loving relationships rarely fantasise about their partner, because familiarity makes them part of real life rather than imagination. It doesn’t mean attraction is gone — though bri

It’s common and usually harmless. Ex-partners are familiar, and the mind often returns to them when we feel bored, stressed or nostalgic. It’s worth paying attention if the thoughts are constant, pain

Yes. Fantasising about other people is extremely common in long relationships, for both men and women. A fantasy is a thought, not an action, and it doesn’t mean you love your partner less. It becomes

When desire fades in the first year or two, it’s often because the early ‘chase’ energy ended and nothing replaced it — or because of anxiety, mismatched expectations or unspoken pain. It’s a warning

A ‘dead bedroom’ is a relationship where sex has stopped or become very rare, usually while the couple stays together. It’s an informal term for what’s often called a sexless marriage. It’s common, an