Short answer
Signs include secret or excessive messaging with one person, sharing feelings with them that you no longer share with your partner, defensiveness, and comparing your partner unfavourably. Emotional affairs often start innocently as friendship and support.
Why this happens
- Unmet emotional needs at home.
- A supportive person appears at a vulnerable time.
- Secrecy makes the connection feel special.
- Boundaries slowly blur.
What helps
- Be honest with yourself about secrecy.
- Step back from the connection.
- Bring the unmet need back into your relationship.
- Talk openly, or get help, if trust is shaken.
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