Short answer
Yes. Many people in loving relationships rarely fantasise about their partner, because familiarity makes them part of real life rather than imagination. It doesn’t mean attraction is gone — though bringing novelty and anticipation back can make your partner feel exciting again.
Why this happens
- Fantasy feeds on mystery; long-term partners feel familiar.
- Real intimacy with a partner may simply feel different from fantasy.
- Routine and stress reduce sexual imagination in general.
- Sometimes it reflects fading attraction worth addressing.
What helps
- Create anticipation — flirt, message, plan time together.
- See your partner in new settings, doing what they love.
- Share small fantasies safely to bring imagination into the relationship.
- If attraction has truly faded, read about how it can come back.
Go deeper: Sexual fantasy: meaning and why it’s normal →
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